Life is full of uncertainties. We come across so many people from such diverse walks of life that it becomes hard to keep track of them. But in these many, some stay for a while, some for longer and some will stay by our side forever. But there exist very few people who come, touch our lives and then leave. All make tall claims to 'always stay in touch', but reality is few stay in touch, most don't. Coping with such a loss is painful. Hope tells you that things will not change, that the relationship will always stay the same. But reality is, for most folks:
"Out of Sight = Out of Mind"
But even to this, there are exceptions.
When you realize and notice that the one person who was beside you all this while is no longer around. You feel this strange emptiness. A rather strong feeling of helplessness. The moments you spent together were a dream then, but they're your worst nightmare now. They remind you of all the places you've been to and the things you used do together. Locations have a remarkable ability to trigger recollection of even the most distant memories in remarkably vivid detail. Revisit the places you frequented and you'll see the person there. You reach out for that reassuring touch but are then disappointed after you realize it was a mere projection of your optimism, your hope. Even the simplest tasks become excruciatingly difficult to complete without seeing a flashback of the past events. But in all this hurt and pain, there is a positive. In all of this darkness, there is a light.
"Be Glad That It Happened, Don't Regret That It's Over"
Yes, we've all heard that before and only those who have experienced a loss know how hard it is to implement. The problem here is in the perception. Think of it this way:
"Nothing Ever Ends, It's Just The Beginning Of Something New."
Think about it, this is the truth. Though the person has left, the relationship is not over. It's just taken a new form. Everything is life is like energy, it is neither created nor destroyed, it just undergoes change from one state to another.
In the case that a person is shifting base, the only thing that is going to chance is HOW you communicate with that person. If the bond is strong and the other person reciprocates appropriately. There is nothing that will stop you from staying in contact. Then the age old counter:
"I Will Not Be Able To See The Person Anymore"
True to an extent. But if you are reading this article, you have solution right under your nose. Hook up to a webcam, get Skype and you're good to go. As for everything, the first step is TRYING. Keep trying and eventually it becomes a habit.
"Where There Is A Will, There Is A Way."
The person didn't respond? Don't lose hope, there's always a tomorrow to try again. Always keep in mind that the other person misses you as well and waits for your reassuring voice when he/she has had a bad day. If the relationship is meaningful, the person would want to double your happiness and halve your sorrows. Don't think of the person not being around physically as a barrier, look at it as a reason to keep in touch more often.
Miss the person? Say it! Want to meet the person? Do it! Want him/her to meet you on your birthday? DEMAND it! This way, you will reassure the person that nothing has changed and that he/she is still your best friend.
Life is all about interpretation. How you interpret a situation reflects on how you handle it as well.
And with anything, hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
"Out of Sight = Out of Mind"
But even to this, there are exceptions.
When you realize and notice that the one person who was beside you all this while is no longer around. You feel this strange emptiness. A rather strong feeling of helplessness. The moments you spent together were a dream then, but they're your worst nightmare now. They remind you of all the places you've been to and the things you used do together. Locations have a remarkable ability to trigger recollection of even the most distant memories in remarkably vivid detail. Revisit the places you frequented and you'll see the person there. You reach out for that reassuring touch but are then disappointed after you realize it was a mere projection of your optimism, your hope. Even the simplest tasks become excruciatingly difficult to complete without seeing a flashback of the past events. But in all this hurt and pain, there is a positive. In all of this darkness, there is a light.
"Be Glad That It Happened, Don't Regret That It's Over"
Yes, we've all heard that before and only those who have experienced a loss know how hard it is to implement. The problem here is in the perception. Think of it this way:
"Nothing Ever Ends, It's Just The Beginning Of Something New."
Think about it, this is the truth. Though the person has left, the relationship is not over. It's just taken a new form. Everything is life is like energy, it is neither created nor destroyed, it just undergoes change from one state to another.
In the case that a person is shifting base, the only thing that is going to chance is HOW you communicate with that person. If the bond is strong and the other person reciprocates appropriately. There is nothing that will stop you from staying in contact. Then the age old counter:
"I Will Not Be Able To See The Person Anymore"
True to an extent. But if you are reading this article, you have solution right under your nose. Hook up to a webcam, get Skype and you're good to go. As for everything, the first step is TRYING. Keep trying and eventually it becomes a habit.
"Where There Is A Will, There Is A Way."
The person didn't respond? Don't lose hope, there's always a tomorrow to try again. Always keep in mind that the other person misses you as well and waits for your reassuring voice when he/she has had a bad day. If the relationship is meaningful, the person would want to double your happiness and halve your sorrows. Don't think of the person not being around physically as a barrier, look at it as a reason to keep in touch more often.
Miss the person? Say it! Want to meet the person? Do it! Want him/her to meet you on your birthday? DEMAND it! This way, you will reassure the person that nothing has changed and that he/she is still your best friend.
Life is all about interpretation. How you interpret a situation reflects on how you handle it as well.
And with anything, hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
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